When Christmas Isn’t Magical
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“I hope you have a wonderful holiday!”
“Have a Merry Christmas!”
I’ve said, typed, and written these phrases countless times over the last few days, and I’ll continue to do so over the next week. Of course I’d love for everyone to have the Best Christmas Ever. Yet every time I say, type, or write such things, I feel like something’s missing. A big old “BUT.”
If you don’t have a wonderful holiday, that’s OK, too.
If your Christmas is anything but merry, you’re not alone.
I’ve shared the cookie recipe, the holiday meal plans, the traditions, and the decorating and entertaining tips. It’s been fun. But now I want to share what’s probably the most important advice of all when it comes to the holidays: CUT YOURSELF SOME SLACK.
Society puts a tremendous amount of pressure on us to have a “magical” holiday season. If you’re a parent, you probably feel pressure to create beautiful Christmas memories for your kids, to get all the right photos, and create meaningful traditions. But if your kid melts down because Santa didn’t bring the right toy, or the elf forgot to move…if he/she wakes up on Christmas morning with a 104 fever…if you didn’t make it to the holiday light display this year, or you didn’t have the time or desire to bake any cookies…you’re not alone.
If you’re single, you might feel pressure to have a buzzing social calendar full of fabulous parties and events. According to the media, you should spend the holiday season glittering head to toe in “must have” looks, constantly laughing while sipping beautifully crafted cocktails with friends. But if you’re sitting on the couch in your sweats, wondering if you’re the only one who’s not inundated with all those “last-minute cocktail party invites” that everyone on Instagram seems to be getting, you’re not alone.
If you’re part of a couple, you might feel pressure to be making great declarations of adoration to your significant other with expensive, heartfelt gifts, or taking adorable photographs to show the world just how in love the two of you are. But if you’re second-guessing your relationship or wishing your boyfriend/husband knew that you’d much rather have a gift card to Nordstrom than a heart-shaped pendant from Kay Jewelers, you’re not alone.
The pressure doesn’t just surround the commercial aspects of Christmas, it affects the spiritual side, too. If you’re a person of faith, you might feel pressure to have an amazing sense of closeness to God during the Christmas season, a strengthening of faith and joy, and an unending capacity to give. But if you leave your Christmas Eve service feeling less than inspired because you spent the whole hour trying to keep your baby from screaming, or you’re riddled with guilt every time you bypass a ringing bell or decline the $5 donation at the register because you’re completely overspent, you’re not alone.
You might be lonely on Christmas, whether you’re actually alone or just feeling alone in a room full of people. You might be sad. You might be ill. You might be angry. You might spend half the day battling a sense of self-loathing because of all of the cookies you ate the day before. You’re not alone.
Of course, Christmas can be wonderful and magical and joyful and all those good things, but it doesn’t need to be. Having a not-so-great Christmas doesn’t make you a not-so-great person.
Remember, it’s just one day. There will be other days. You might have a tremendous time surrounded by people you love sometime in January. You might feel closer than ever to God on a rainy Wednesday in March. You might feel that burst of adoration for your spouse on the day after Christmas, when he’s lying awake with your puking kid or waiting in a long line to exchange the broken toy.
Take the pressure off, my friends. I really do hope you have a wonderful, magical, and merry Christmas. But if you don’t, it’s OK. You’re not alone.
This is going to be my last post of the holiday season. I’m going to spend the next two weeks organizing, relaxing, spending time with family, and working on some big posts I have planned for 2016! On that note, I welcome any feedback about what you’d like to see more of on the blog in the coming year. What areas of your life are you hoping to simplify in 2016? And even though I won’t have a new post up for a while, I’ll be sharing some things on Facebook, so come join us over there!
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